I have argued long and hard that there is little difference between domestic and international adoption, if we consider that often the class differential of domestic adoption is from an internal “Third World” of poverty and the exploitation of those from this realm.
I have argued long and hard that if we shift to notions of displacement and dispossession, then all adoption is within the same vein, and not only that, it connects us to others who are likewise displaced for political and economic reasons: migrants, immigrants, refugees, etc.; and creates a “common cause” between us.
And then, and then…I’ll come across a statement from an adoptee which is anti-immigrant, or pro-deportation, or which questions the validity of indigenous people to claim their children, or which in some way due to the class privilege provided to them via their adoption allows them to increase the divide so many are trying so hard to close up if not mend.
At these moments I give up. At these moments, I feel like it all just comes crumbling down; there is no hope and no point in even trying to explain or convince when those who should know better for their own circumstances choose instead to be part of the “dominant mode” and status quo of adoption.
How to deal with this? How do we deal with this? Is there always going to be literally a divide between Domestic and International?