In speaking of “rematriation” as opposed to “repatriation”, we take a different and gendered view of our adoptions and our return [link]. I’d like to expand on this with a notion that I have been painfully aware of these past years as I’ve worked with returned adoptees in Lebanon, male and female. As a male […]
Random snippets behind this post include this quote I came across on Twitter [link]: “Getting rid of your Chineseness by losing your accent, it’s like grinding away your face.” —Richard A Lou, artist; from the book War Baby/Love Child It makes me think of a former and historical/egalitarian “cosmopolitanism” or mixing of cultures in an […]
I’m touching back here to a discussion we had about AP entitlement [link], and how our discussions, which we would hope help us “break out” of the status quo discussion of adoption in fact feed back into the “adoption loop” as it were. Recently the reactions to NPR’s mediation of transracial adoption, as well as […]
I was describing my return to Lebanon to someone and the word “repatriated” came out of my mouth. It went without notice, but I was stuck on this term afterward, and it was bothering me to refer to myself this way. For one reason, it seemed too much to echo “expatriate” as well as “patriarchy”; […]
On Twitter, I came across a discussion of adoptive parents talking about the questions they get asked about adoption; they were defining themselves as having been “ostracized” for their adoptions. I asked myself—and wanted to ask them, but 140 characters is dismal for this kind of discussion—is this at all valid? When you have the […]
I found an article online: Scientists have found that memories may be passed down through generations in our DNA: New research from Emory University School of Medicine, in Atlanta, has shown that it is possible for some information to be inherited biologically through chemical changes that occur in DNA. During the tests they learned that […]
This tweet recently appeared on Twitter: I WILL constantly #judge you if you #adopt a child and constantly refer to them as: “my #black #adopted child”. It was followed up by the above question. I’ll leave it open to your interpretation and response.
In a separate post, I mentioned tangentially: I was writing up my piece on trauma because of a conversation with a friend and fellow adoptee; we were comparing stress symptoms, and discussing the health effects of stress. There is something disturbing in the idea of a body in a constant state of “fight or flight”, […]
Have you ever used or contemplated using one of the DNA services that promises to find ancestors/relatives, such as 23AndMe? Why or why not? What changes in terms of your own understanding of adoption when you think about yourself on this, the genetic level? Expand at will….
Over the past couple of days, Thomas Jefferson has been popping up here [link] and there [link], and in reading the history concerning the man now being revisited in ways that are not pleasing to those who see him in a particular mythological light, I started thinking about the following (rhetorical and naive) question. In […]
Last night I made the unfortunate decision to watch the last 15 minutes of the movie Orphan which was showing on one of the Gulf satellite stations. By coincidence, this was in the search phrases this morning. My punishment perhaps—moreso than the movie in and of itself? In any case, the question is open for […]
I came across a list of books targeting children as the audience with the subject being transracial adoption [link]. Two questions. Can you now imagine or consider that these might have been helpful/hurtful reading as a child? What books did you turn to (consciously or not-so) to help you deal with your adoption and/or these […]
I was always struck by the lyrics (and title) of the Talking Head’s song Seen and Not Seen [link]: He would see faces in movies, on T.V., in magazines, and in books / He thought that some of these faces might be right for him / And through the years, by keeping an ideal facial […]
I’ve argued that adoption is a “leap-frogging” of other assimilation processes, notably immigration. What does it mean when adoption is given precedence over and favored above such other processes? I read today that the Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption publishes a yearly list of “Adoption-friendly workplaces”, such as Cornell University [link], whose web site proudly […]
In a previous question [link] I asked whether you as an adoptee would repatriate yourself if your place of birth afforded you some kind of re-entry to the country, language, culture, etc. Girl4708 replied at the time: The power differential on a smaller scale doesn’t change: the haves will always overpower the have-nots. As an […]