Trauma and Reflection

Prior to 2013, I was considered, by some, to be an adoption activist as I wrote and presented about historic trauma, and the role of legislation in determining legitimacy as a family, a person, a representative of an ethnic group. Adoptions were bad, staying within family/community was good. But then a funny thing happened on […]

Why Asian Adoptees Need to Give a Shit about #BlackLivesMatter

I don’t remember the first time someone told me I was White. But I definitely remember the last. It was the summer of my junior year in college and I was a new student orientation leader. My university was diverse but mostly segregated, and this staff was about half White and half Black – plus […]

What do we tell our children about adoption?

As an older adoptee, who didn’t address her own adoptee issues, who wasn’t aware of adoptee community and whose grown children also did not benefit from that knowledge and support base, I am very cognizant of all the adoptees who are now raising children of their own.  Most of these children of adoptees are bi-racial […]

Bitter medicine.

For me, these adoptee groups are like taking spoonfuls of bitter medicine.  The sharing I do with other adoptees, the reflections of my past, and all the things that I have learned has healed me.  Adoption is as varied as shoes, apples or the variety of labels of medication on the shelves of the local […]

How do you handle questions from people who try to tell you how you must ‘feel’ about being left by your parents?

Dear Fellow Adoptees at Transracialeyes , I am a Chinese American adoptee. I was born in China and adopted when I was about to turn 8 years old. In a few weeks I will be 12 years old. After I entered the orphanage in China I was put into foster care. I lived with my […]