Trauma and Reflection

Prior to 2013, I was considered, by some, to be an adoption activist as I wrote and presented about historic trauma, and the role of legislation in determining legitimacy as a family, a person, a representative of an ethnic group. Adoptions were bad, staying within family/community was good. But then a funny thing happened on […]

Why Asian Adoptees Need to Give a Shit about #BlackLivesMatter

I don’t remember the first time someone told me I was White. But I definitely remember the last. It was the summer of my junior year in college and I was a new student orientation leader. My university was diverse but mostly segregated, and this staff was about half White and half Black – plus […]

The “Painted Bird”: Preserved “culture” and adoptive backlash.

The controversy over Jerzy Kosinski’s novel The Painted Bird remains, but for me the central image of the novel still holds: A birdcatcher paints one of his flock in bright colors; seen as foreign by the other birds, it is attacked and killed. This is the image that occurred to me after reading a news […]

Soldiers of assimilation.

I’ve been thinking a lot about the general lack of response to our claim that our culture, language, and identity have been destroyed, and by the willful replacement of this with “culture” and “heritage” camps and the like. This was touched on in the item Neo-colonialism: APs on the front lines of Empire, but I’ve […]

The internal Other: American Indian nations and adoption.

A father regains custody of his child through the Indian Child Welfare Act: http://www.facebook.com/KeepRonnieHome http://www.facebook.com/KeepingVeronica Alaska’s Supreme Court’s ruling on one such case: http://www.courts.alaska.gov/ops/sp-6680.pdf And then there are the adoptive parents: http://www.facebook.com/SaveVeronicaRose Who echo the sentiments of organizations such as this: http://caicw.org/ In the above case race, nation, and culture won.  What do transracial adoptees […]

Do you think transracial adoption is easier on the adoptee when at least one of the AP is from the same racial background?

I have been reading your blog with some interest as myself (British) and my husband (Indonesian) are just starting the process of adopting. We plan to adopt in my husband’s home country of Indonesia and plan on living there for the foreseeable future. So my question is as adoptees do you think you would have […]

What can I do to give [this child] the best life?

I randomly came across your blog tonight and can’t stop reading. I am a white adoptive mom to my African-American three-year-old daughter. I already feel some ridicule just by saying that and in a crazy way feel I need to give you a synopsis to justify her adoption but am trying to just stick to […]